Tuesday, November 9, 2010
the need to breed...
Some people have asked us why we want/have SOOO many children (in my opinion a family with four kids is on the large side of a small family). I always hated telling our family that we were expecting because I always felt that they viewed children and large families as a bad thing. I'm not sure why they sent out those vibes, but I am sure about the reasons why we should/need to have a large family...
So as you can see, our kids are alone, much like I was raised alone. After living that life, I don't want them to have that. My kids will have eachother. They will have each other to laugh with, make fun of, hug, spend holidays with, hold each others children, watch get married, send on missions, they will take care of each other, they will cherish each other and be cherished by someone. The will be surrounded by people who know them and look like them. Chris and I will likewise have the same things. We will have the family we always wished we had, the family we needed but lacked.
Not to say that there won't be issues. I'm not trying to create perfection here, I'm trying to give them what is most important in this life...family! So the next time someone gives me the WOW your hands are full comment...well I don't know what I will do, but I will know that it is a good thing. I always tell Chris, who often gets overwhelmed by our house full of kids, that one day...one day we will be old and gray surrounded by our children and their children...and he will realize what I was trying to do all of these years, and in that moment of realization he will lean over and whisper in my ear "Thank you"! Now I hope it doesnt take that long, but he is a bit stubborn you see.
So we will keep breeding until we are told that we are done. We will treat our children as treasures because that is what they are. What a gift they are! I admire those who are selfless enough to fill their houses with children. The lessons learned from them are priceless.
Posted by Melissa at 2:37 PM